I'm a realist, Yoc, and a pragmatist, too. I love my mom, and she is progressing into a different part of her life. She's 89 and she's done a lot and lived a lot and what will be will be. Celebrate the now and the "future" will take care of itself. Someday my reality might be a world where my mom's dead, but that's not the now. You have to cope with and deal with now. I can handle that. Emotionally, it's not sad now and it's not going to be sad when she dies. It'll just be what happens. You know that old saying, "Nobody gets out of this world alive." Part of life is death. I'll miss my mom just like I'll miss Al Williamson, but it won't be unexpected when she goes.
Thanks for the good thoughts. Like I said, appreciate the now. If your mom is still alive, call her up and tell her you love her. You'll both appreciate it.
Peace, Jim (|:{>